Wednesday nights - Rav Benzion's Tanya shiur..........Please continue to daven for the good health of the Rebbe (Yechiel Michel ben Devorah Leah) and Rebbetzin (Feiga bas Sarah).

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

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To Be Alone In Divine Service

Here is a classic vort from the Rebbe, shlit"a:

When Hashem told Moshe to ascend Har Sinai, He added this stipulation: איש לא יעלה עמך וגם איש אל ירא בכל ההר ההוא. No man shall ascend with you and also no man shall be seen on the entire mountain.
The repetitiveness of the pasuk is obvious.

More often than not, when we are engaged in avdoas Hashem such as davening or learning, we are all too busy worrying about what other people are thinking.

"How am I shukeling?"

"Am I davening too loud?"

"I better not look up out of the sefer, so-and-so is watching."
When one wants to ascend the mountain of Hashem, he must totally remover all others' presence from his consciousness.This is what Hashem was telling Moshe Rabeinu when he told him to ascend Har Sinai and "no man shall ascend with you." It is just you and Hashem.

But there is something subtler and deeper that requires our attention. Inevitably, even if we succeed and are not preoccupied with what other people think, we distract ourselves by constantly checking up on our own avodah. Not in relation to me and the next guy, but my Divine service qua my Divine service. How am I doing in relation to my obligation and abilities? In the moment of avodah, in middle of davening, is not the time to be making cheshbon hanefesh. We get too caught up in this form of self-judgment at the wrong time. How can we expect to lose ourselves in the moments of avodaha and be focused on serving the Almighty when we are busy watching ourselves under the microscope?

So the pasuk is not redundant. Hashem told Moshe: Not only do I want no other man to go up with you, but when you are there on the mountain of Hashem, do not bring yourself either. Let no man be seen at all.

Friday, February 18, 2011

Ki Sisa: A Lion in the Holy of Holies

This D'var Torah was transcribed from recordings of informal discussions and edited for clarity of the written word only, leaving as much of the content, to the best of our ability, exactly as the Rebbe, shlit”a, said it. Any mistakes, be they from a linguistic standpoint or in the content itself, are only the product of the editors’ own shortcomings and oversight.
 Recorded on March 15, 2006 (5766)
The Golden Calf
We know that the number of Jews that were involved with the sin of the Golden Calf was but a fraction of a percent of Klal Yisroel. The Golden Calf itself was mostly a product of the Erev Rav, the mixed multitude of Johnny-come-lately’s who hopped on the bandwagon and did not have a history of commitment to monotheism. Nonetheless, the entire generation was held responsible because they didn’t protest and they didn’t stop it. Everybody is sullied by it because they should have stood up.
The obvious question is, why? The instigators were not even of Jewish extraction. Why should Klal Yisroel be punished for the iniquity of the Erev Rav? In addition,  how could Klal Yisroel be expected at that point, just out of slavery, to be activists?
After the sin, Moshe pleads with Hashem on the behalf of Klal Yisroel, and Hashem responds (Shemos 32: 34): וביום פקדי ופקדתי עליהם חטאתם, “On the days [in history] when I will remember [i.e. when they will be deserving of being punished for a different sin], I will remember this sin [also]”.
Rashi’s comments: “Now I listened to you not to destroy them altogether but whenever I shall make an accounting of their sins, I will also remember this sin with the rest of their sins. There is no punishment that comes upon Klal Yisroel which does not have in it some payment for the sin of the Golden Calf”.
Every other generation has no involvement, no complicity with the sin that took place thousands of years ago that they should be blamed for, that they should get punished for. There is nothing that I’m aware of that should support the thought that we were all there at the scene of the Golden Calf. Yet it turns out that the sin of the Golden Calf walks with us throughout history. Whenever we have to suffer the consequences of our detachment from Hashem in whatever generation it may be, we suffer not only for what we’re doing at that time but for the sin of the golden calf as well.
The Draw to Idolatry and it’s Abolishment
The Gemara (Sanhedrin 102b) relates an interesting episode where Rav Ashi concluded the day’s shiur by saying that “tomorrow we’re going to look into the matter of my friend Menasheh”. He was referring to the king Menasheh ben Chizkiyahu who was responsible for this terrible period of Avodah Zarah in Klal Yisroel.
That night, Menasheh appears to Rav Ashi in a dream and says to him, “You referred to me today as your friend. Let me ask you a question in Halacha and we’ll see if you are my peer.” He then proceeds to present a question that Rav Ashi couldn’t answer.
“You don’t know the answer and you call yourself my friend, my equal?” asks Menasheh.
Rav Ashi replies, “Tell me the answer and I will tell it over in the yeshiva in your name.” Upon hearing the answer, Rav Ashi says, “If you’re so learned, how come you were so dedicated to idolatry?”
Menasheh answered, “Had you been living in our generation, you would have picked up your tunic [so that you could run easily, see Rashi] and run after me”. Clearly there was something about idolatry which in the generation of Rav Ashi was so unthinkable, so ridiculous and ludicrous, but in the time of the kings of Israel, it seemed very appealing.
The Gemara (ibid. 63b) says that the Jewish people never took idolatry seriously and that the only reason that they embraced any idolatry at any time in history was to make immorality acceptable.
The Gemara goes on to relate that the Sages of the Great Assembly decided that the time had come to end the desire, the yetzer hara, for idolatry. They fasted and prayed that Hashem should free us of this nisayon. After three days of fasting, a lion of fire emerged from the Kodesh Hakedoshim, the Holy of the Holies. They took it captive, and from that day forward the yetzer hara for idolatry was ended and people saw idolatry for the nonsense that it was. (Seeing that they were successful, the Sages decided to get rid of the desire for immorality. They fasted and were successful about that as well. But shortly thereafter they discovered that there were no eggs to be found in the marketplace because the yetzer harah for immorality is intertwined with a legitimate desire for procreation. When they destroyed the yetzer hara, both the animal kingdom and people lost their interest. So they restored the yetzer hara but “blinded it in one eye”, thereby diminishing its strength and there is no longer the same level of desire for immediate relatives, those that constitute incest.)
A Double-edged Sword
There was a period of time in Jewish history when honor was a very powerful force. I’m not referring to honors paid in terms of either praise or deference but rather kavod ha’adam, the honor of a person. Today we might look at it more as respect or self-respect, in recognition of one’s integrity as an honorable person.
This force has both positive and negative aspects. For example, in a positive sense, people felt compelled by what they understood to be their inherent worthiness to live up to that worthiness. They understood that they were endowed with something G-dly. They understood that they were invested with a vast spiritual genius, an ability for spiritual and moral excellence, and they felt compelled to answer to that. They felt summoned by it. They recognized their own sense of kavod ha’adam, that greatness with which G-d had endowed them, as a responsibility.
On the other hand, if they did not answer to it, if they violated it, their sense of shame and of failure was so awesome that it was impossible for them to deal with it. They looked at themselves in the mirror and they couldn’t bear what they saw. Moreover, they were convinced that it was transparent and that nobody else could respect them either. So that very thing that was the source of, or could be the source of greatness also became the source of extraordinary self-deprecation. In other words, they saw themselves as sinners. This discrepancy had thunderous connotations on their how they understood their essence.
The conflict between their physical appetites and their spiritual aspirations was of such enormous proportions that when they felt unable to deal with their summons to greatness and the effort it demanded from them on the one hand and their very formidable drive towards indulging their immediate gratification on the other, they had to come up with something that was just in the middle. Idolatry allowed one to step out in public as an honorable person, even though they knew in their heart of hearts that the whole thing was a nasty charade. It enabled them to continue to say with some self-believability, however thin that façade probably was, “I am an honorable person. I am an upstanding…” whatever it was, whatever the religion was. But it was the only thing that allowed them or that gave them some reputability as they were in social circles which were doing nasty stuff, but it’s okay. It’s acceptable. What they did was to create a religion that reinstated their public respectability and to whatever extent it also made them feel better when they were sitting alone before their fireplace. It was not a cure, but it helped numb the self-contempt and dreams. This disposition, which at once calls people to greatness and demands of them that they have some sort of public respectability is drawing from a relationship with royalty. The royal disposition is one which demands of a person that they live up to their office but also has a profound sense of shame associated with not being worthy of it.
Without the Lion
One of the symbols of royalty is the lion. That lion of royalty, which could call people to the greatest levels of holiness, is also that which was responsible for dragging us into the abyss. It was such an extreme that if you couldn’t measure up then you had to invent some faith system to replace it in order to regain a sense of respect. So in reality, Jewish greatness is in the Kodesh Hakadoshim; it is supremely holy. When the chachomim fasted to destroy the drive for idolatry, in effect they diminished our awareness of our own sense of what we are called to become. Once that was weakened, we no longer have the need to justify ourselves.
Today it’s okay for somebody to do whatever they want to do. They don’t feel like they need to justify it by creating a face for it. Okay, so I did something wrong. Whatever it is, maybe I’m an adulterer, maybe I’m a thief. We have people today who can cheat somebody out of their skin but they don’t feel that they need to create a face to defend it to say that it was a legitimate thing to do.
So, we are no longer driven to create an idolatry. But the price we pay is that we’re also not aware of the heights that we’re supposed to reach and we don’t strive for those heights. The chachomim took the lion out of the Holy of Holies, but they also took the Holy of Holies out of the lion.
What’s Happening Today
The fact is that even though we don’t create idolatries today to defend our self-respect, we do create all kinds of rationalizations why it’s okay to do the many things we do today that we shouldn’t. All the different forms of reformations that have occurred over Jewish history whether it was two thousand years ago or two hundred years ago, it doesn’t matter. It’s basically the same mechanism. It’s something that to tell ourselves and others, “this is okay”.
You’ll find it in many Orthodox circles today, people who are making things okay that should not be allowed to be okay. Because they didn’t totally destroy our honor, people still have honor. People still look in the mirror and hold themselves accountable. The only thing that we don’t do today to defend ourselves is to create new gods and faith systems. We don’t go that far. But we do create rationalizations. Everybody does that. It turns out that humanity and the Jewish people are still involved in the same basic mechanisms, just not to that extreme.
Hashem said, “Look, there’s going to be a time when I’m going to visit upon you your sins and I’m going to visit upon you the sin of the Golden Calf because you’re still doing it.” Not because we’re responsible for what they did then, but we’re responsible for what we’re doing now. What we’re doing now is basically a replica of what they were doing then. The only thing then is that since they were bigger people they needed more extreme ways of justifying. I think that the reason that we sleep walk today is just because we’re less aware. Once upon a time when we looked at our spiritual horizon, we saw majestic peaks, great mountains to climb. We see foothills from here on out.

Parshas Ki Sisa: When To Use Holy Pride

"R' Meir Shapiro" Tiefenbrun Art Collection
Once, the Rebbe's father, Rebbe Yaakov Yisroel, ztz”l and Rav Meir Shapiro (of Daf Yomi fame) were traveling on the same train. Rebbe Yaakov Yisroel used to travel coach and inasmuch as Rav Shapiro was considered a dignitary, he traveled first class. When Rav Shaipro heard that the Hornosteipler Rebbe was on the train, he relocated to coach to sit with the Rebbe, ztz”l.

In the course of the conversation, Rav Shapiro said the following: Sometimes a person needs to have gaaveh d’kedusha, literally “holy pride”. The pasuk (Shemos 33:21-22) says הנה מקום אתי, if there is a place for Hashem here, then ונצבת על הצור, be strong with this “holy pride”. But if והיה בעבור כבודי, if My honor is not here, then ושמתיך בנקרת הצור, lay low in the cleft of a rock, practice humility.

(Heard from the Rebbe on Shabbos Chol Hamoed 5767)

Ki Sisa: Trust in Hashem's Cheshbon

The Gemara (Brachos 7a) and Medrashim on the verses הודעני נא את דרכך and הראני נא את כבודך say that Moshe was asking to know why “good things happen to bad people”. The Chasam Sofer says that Hashem answered: ופני לא יראו, you can’t see beforehand, but וראית את אחורי, you will know what the cheshbon was at some point after the fact.

The Rebbe, shlit”a, added the following: הנה מקום אתי, if you have faith that there is place here with Hashem, meaning that there is a cheshbon and loving hashgacha pratis on every single thing that happens - that Hashem is here as well, and ונצבת על הצור - if you stand committed in that faith and reliant on the Rock of Israel, צור ישראל וגואלו, and you remember that everything is “oisg’cheshboned”, then I will take you into Me and into that cheshbon, I will bring you inside ושמתיך בנקרת הצור, I will put you into the cleft of the “Rock” and until such time I will cover you with My palm, I will protect you, until I have passed. And then I will take off the mask and you will see the why, for the complete good, did it have to be this way. 

(Heard from the Rebbe on Shabbos Chol Hamoed 5767)

Monday, February 14, 2011

Pictures Available from Melech Pasikov

Reb Elimelech Pasikov has put up his own photographs, including many of the Rebbe's most recent trip to Eretz Yisroel, on his new blog. (The blog is in Hebrew).
In addition to what's on Elimelech's blog, here is a sample from a 15-page booklet he is printing of pictures from Mekomos Hakedoshim:

(If you are interested in purchasing, please email me).

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Superbowl D'var Torah

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Monday, January 31, 2011

The Polish March

Here is a march the Rebbe as been teaching the oilam as of late. In Chabad, this nigun is known simply as "The Polish March". It is also sung in Yeshivas Chaim Berlin at the Purim seuda.

This post was moved to the Shiru La'Shem page.

 

Friday, January 28, 2011

Mishpatim: I Want To Go Home

We all know of the mitzvah of Ahavas Yisroel: ואהבת לרעך כמוך - v’ahavta l’reacha kamocha. Like Hillel's instruction to the prospective convert, the basic definition of this love is, “Whatever you find distasteful to yourself, you should not do to another person”.

In Parshas Eikev (Devarim 10: 19), we find the commandment of ואהבתם את הגר - "You shall love the stranger, for you were strangers in Mitzrayim".

In this Parshas Mishpatim, this mitzvah is mentioned an additional two times:

וגר לא תונה ולא תלחצנו כי גרים הייתם בארץ מצרים -You shall not abuse a stranger and you shall not oppress him, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt (Shemos 22: 30).

וגר לא תלחץ ואתם ידעתם את נפש הגר כי גרים הייתם בארץ מצרים - You shall not oppress a stranger; you know the soul of the stranger, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt (ibid. 23: 9).

The Rambam makes it clear in addition to the mitzvah of Ahavas Yisroel which applies to all Jews, there is a second mitzvah in regards to a convert of  “v’ahavtem es ha’ger” and “v’ahavta lo kamocha” (Vayikra 19: 34). The implication from the Rambam is that it’s not just, “do unto the ger as you would have others do to you”, as it is by loving your fellow Jew. Rather, there is an additional aspect by a ger, a positive commandment to love him.

The first question is, why this extra emphasis on loving the ger, more so than on loving a Jew born Jew?

Secondly, the Torah gives us a very perplexing reason why we mustn’t oppress a ger: “You know the soul of the stranger, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt”. Thirty-five hundred years ago, we had grandparents who were in Mitzrayim; how does it follow that we would therefore know what it feels like to be a stranger? Which one of us has any sense of what it means to be a ger because our ancestors were geirim? You could say that to the first generation, but the Torah is timeless and forever, and the Torah is talking to us right now, who have been very comfortable and at home. (The truth is that anybody who has been exposed to anti-Semitism has a sense, but we don’t really understand what it’s like, and the reason is surely not because our bubbies and zeidies were in Mitzrayim thousands of years ago.)

In Parshas Lech Lecha, the Ribono shel Olam tells Avraham Avinu that he is going to father Klal Yisroel and that they will ultimately come to inherit the Land of Israel. Avraham’s response is: במה אדע, how will I know? I’m going father this special nation who will be Your special people and they’re going to inherit Eretz Yisroel, they’re going to be a mamleches kohanim v’goi kadosh. But there is choice. What’s the guarantee that my children are not going to choose to abandon Yiddishkeit and really will inherit the land?

We then have the Bris bein Habesarim where Hashem says: ידע תדע כי גר יהיה זרעך בארץ לא להם וכו' - "Know with certainty that your offspring shall be strangers in a land not their own" (Bereishis 15: 13). Here is the guarantee: Your children are always going to be strangers. They are going to be geirim even when they are living in Eretz Yisroel. They are going to be geirim wherever they are because the nature of the neshoma in this world is to be a ger. The natural place for the neshoma is with the Almighty, in the uppermost heavens. That is the only place where the neshoma is truly at home.

Klal Yisroel will always remain attached G-d, to Torah and mitzvos, matter where they are, no matter what generation, no matter how comfortable, no matter how rich - it doesn’t matter. Even if they’ll be in Eretz Yisroel, with "ish tachas gafno, ish tachas t’enaso", it’s not going to make any difference. For some reason, they will always feel, in this physical world, that this is not their place. The only time they will find themselves comfortable is when they find their place in Avodas Hashem, in Limud Hatorah, in Tefila, in Ma’asim Tovim. Klal Yisroel’s place, where they are not geirim, is in the Will of the Creator of he Universe.

Somehow, no matter what we try to do to get away from “Why do I feel so uneasy when I’m in a swimming pool in Acapulco?”, we can’t seem to shake that feeling. Why is Klal Yisroel so uneasy when they are surrounded by luxury and riches, no matter where they are? Why do they drift into drugs or run to the mountains of Tibet to try and learn from the Eastern myth? It’s because something inside of them says “I don’t belong here, I’ve got to find my roots”, but they are looking in the wrong places. So they have to shut the voice down by either drowning it in the pursuit of pleasure or power or money. Some of them drown it out with the pursuit of spirituality, but not a Jewish spirituality. Yet, they always remain somehow in a state of disquiet, of agitation.

Ultimately, that irritation leads them back because the only place where Klal Yisroel feels at home is when they are with the Ribono shel Olam and His service.

The definition in the soul of Yisroel, which every Jew for time immemorial up until the end of time is going to feel like a ger, was acquired in Mitzrayim. Once we left Mitzrayim, no matter where we were, we were strangers. Be it in the desert, Eretz Yisroel, Bavel, no matter where we find ourselves today, we are geirim.

That state of geirus brings us back to Avodas Hashem. Even those who are already into Avodas Hashem, but to the extent that each one of us wanders a little bit from that focus, there is something that says to us this doesn’t feel right. I feel like I’m not connected right now, I’m detached, I’m a stranger now, I’m not home. The only place where we really feel whole is when we are connected to the Ribono Shel Olam.

The Torah is telling us: Be very careful about how you treat a ger because you ARE a ger. Not because your zeidas were geirim. The reason you are a ger today is because your zeidas were gerim in Mitzrayim, but the gierus of “atem yodatem es nefesh hager - You know the soul of the ger” is right now! How is it that I know the ger right now? “For you were strangers in Egypt”. The definition happened in Mitzrayim, that’s where we became gerim, and consequently, there is a special mitzva of v’ahavta lo kamocha - Love the ger as yourself. Hashem is telling us that there is a special attention and an extra focus: You have a neshoma. That neshoma is your essence, and it is a stranger in this world. You like yourself. You have to like your neshoma even more, v’ahavta lo kamocha. Love your ger. Pay him attention. See to his needs.

There is a mitzvah by Klal Yisroel of Ahavas Yisroel: don’t do to somebody else what you wouldn’t want. But for the ger you have to go out of your way.

The ultimate objective of v’havtem es hager, is that through this mitzvah we realize that we have our own geirus, and that it’s our shoresh and our essence. We need to make sure we are paying all the attention we possibly can to that ger inside of us because that’s where we are really at.

When the Torah is telling us twice in Mishpatim, the idea is that we understand that that mitzvah is something that applies to each one of us, and if we understand it correctly then we will understand our own stats of frustration, of detachment, when we feel displaced, when we are lacking the right feelings of comfort and simcha, its all because the Almighty has given us that definition, the identity, that we are gerim in this world unless we root ourselves in avodas Hashem. Baruch Hamakom, the Almighty is the place, our makom, that is where we have a sense that we’ve come home.

May we all merit to come home, and the best way for this to happen is for the geula to take place so that everyone comes back to Eretz Yisroel and the Shechina HaKedosha will be back with us in the Beis Hamikdosh. Then, we will be home.

(Edited transcription from Mishpatim, 5766)

Sunday, January 23, 2011

New Tefila Yeshara Siddur

זה היום עשה ה' נגילה ונשמחה בו


The NEW Siddur Tefila Yeshara V'Kesser Nehora has been printed. I don't yet own one but the Rebbe just returned from New York with one and loaned it to me to take a look at.

So far, only the first volume, for weekdays, has been printed. A second, for Shabbos and Yom Tov, is expected in the hopefully not-so-distant future. UPDATE: The Shabbos and Yom Tov siddur has been printed and is excellent, with corrections and additions.

The siddur was done by Reb Meir Yechiel Veiner, the same one who did the work on the well-known Biala siddur, Siddur Chelkas Yehoshua. Like the Biala siddur, the new Tefila Yeshara is in k'sav ashuris like in a sefer Torah, in addition to many, many other stylistic and typographic similarities.

I was pleased to see that Reb Veiner stays true to the original 1820 edition, while marking the places where the original differs from the commonly used 1929 edition from Premishla (a copy of the 1894 Berditchev edition). This doesn't really help us with our nusach but at least we have a new siddur.

Newly typeset, this siddur is immediately brought out of the realm of old-age and onto the forefront of modernized chassidishe siddurim (like the new Siddur Nehora before it, for example). However, for me, the page is still jam-packed and confusing with all the commentary and notes, each in a different font. Also, he added some "sheimos" and kavanos that add more unnecessary distraction. All in all, the page is pretty busy with a lot of stuff going on and will take some getting used to. UPDATE: I have been using the siddur for a couple of months and have indeed gotten used to the layout and I must say that it is very geshmak to daven from.

Click to enlarge.

I guess now we have to pencil in all the differences between the Rebbe's nusach and that of the Radviller siddur...

Parshas Mishpatim: Slow and Steady

וכי יזיד איש על רעהו להרגו בערמה, מעם מזבחי תקחנו למות - שמות כא, יד

"When a man will scheme against his fellow to kill him with guile, from My Altar shall you take him to die." (Shemos 21:14)

The term איש, man, over here is referring to the איש בליעל, the yetzer hara. The yetzer hara schemes against us to bring us down and kill us (as the Zohar HaKadosh says, "Falling from one's level is referred to as a death"). And he does so with trickery and guile. Often, when one is excited about serving the Almighty, the yetzer hara will "help" him by pushing him forward at a faster pace than he is really capable of moving. It's sneaky. It looks like it is a good idea, like Divine service, but in reality the only way to climb the ladder is one rung at a time, deliberately, painstakingly slow.

We learned at the end of Parshas Yisro that the Altar was to be made with a ramp. לא תעלה במעלות על מזבחי אשר לא תגלה ערותך עליו, "Do not ascend My Altar by steps, so that your nakedness will not be uncovered". Rashi explains that steps require one to take wide steps. This is a dangerous approach to avodas Hashem where slow and steady "wins the race".

Here, the Torah is telling us that when this evil "man" is scheming to kill us by pushing us ahead in avodas Hashem, ultimately leading to our downfall (and our revealed nakedness, so to speak), we must learn from the mizbe'ach and tell the yetzer hara that we know better. Ascending the place of Divine service must be like the kohanim who had to walk with the toe of one foot adjacent to the heel of the other. מעם מזבחי תקחנו למות, take [a lesson] from the mizbe'ach, and with that you can do away with the yetzer hara.

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Parshas Yisro (from 5766)

With the encouragement and assistance of Reb Nuchim Abrams and others, we present the following D'var Torah for Parshas Yisro, based on one of the post-shachris shiurim. It was transcribed word for word and then edited to make it all flow a little better, all the while trying to preserve as much of the Rebbe's own words as possible. It is not a simple undertaking but with time and siyata dishmaya we will get better at it. For now, enjoy!
RMT Parsha Yisro

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Nigun Waltz 5765

Here is a nigun from the Rebbe, introduced after Shavuos, 5765. As far as I know, it was never really circulated. Enjoy!
This nigun was moved to the NIGGUNIM page.

Video: Kever Rachel 5771


In case anyone missed this awesome video...

Monday, January 17, 2011

Praising Hashem

The following is an edited transcription of the morning shiur given on Oct. 25, 2010 (י"ז מרחשון תשע"א).

Awareness

Here’s the mashal: A couple becomes married and each one loves and respects their spouse. Shortly after their wedding, the husband finds out that his wife is an extremely gifted interior decorator. Whenever he enters the house he begins to notice all the various accoutrements and modifications that his wife has been working on. He becomes aware of the tasteful colors of the walls, their variance, the way they match, the trimming, the curtains that have been chosen, the choice of carpets, etc. He then learns even further that his wife is a very talented artist. He begins to notice that their home is becoming increasingly adorned with all sorts of very striking and beautiful paintings and other artwork. Over time he may come to notice smaller and smaller details about the attention that his wife has given to finer and less noticeable things in the house.

This husband’s awareness of the extent of his wife’s capacity to create beauty grows further and as it grows he notices more things than he ever noticed before about the beauty of the home. First it was just the colors of the wall, then he may begin to notice the designs on the silverware, less and less prominent things, tiny little touches on everything, how everything is done with such care and such taste. After a period of time he will come aware of the fact that his wife’s attention to beauty is so extensive that everything, literally everything that he comes in contact with had been meticulously crafted, carefully chosen to bring beauty into the house.

To the extant that his appreciation grows, his feelings will be deepened, mostly because he realizing that his wife is doing all of these things for him; she is creating all this beauty so he will be surrounded by beauty. This issue of awareness is what deepens and intensifies feelings. It deepens respect and love, appreciation, gratitude. All of those things increase with the awareness of how much his wife’s craftsmanship is devoted to providing a context of beauty for him.

Articulation 

One may notice something beautiful and inwardly there will be some recognition about the fact that it is so, and he will think “that’s beautiful.” But that acknowledgment will remain in his head and only be manifest as a thought; he won’t say it. The nature of thought is that it impacts in a very modest way and that it is quickly replaced by another thought. When we bring something into words, we’ve taken a thought and given it an independent existence. We’ve taken it from an inner place to a…we’ve externalized it. In a certain sense we’ve given birth to something. There is now something out there that’s physical – its sound waves – but we’ve invested it with our thoughts. Hopefully we’ve also invested it with feeling. Feelings of gratitude, appreciation, wonder, awe. 

Ever since the Ribono shel Olam created the world with words, words have a very powerful presence, they create things. Words create worlds. Words create reality. We know how words can create reality when we say nasty things about people or when we say angry things to people that we love. We know how words can create reality when we urge people to do things that they never thought of ever doing before. And words create realities for us. There’s a big difference between a person who thinks and even feels appreciation and someone who actually speaks that appreciation, or that respect or awe. It’s much more real. Our speech is different than anybody else’s speech in the world. You can’t say they are all sound waves. They’re not, because our speech has our signature in it, it belongs to us.


So you have two things: An awareness which sharpens and deepens feelings and emotions, appreciation and gratitude and respect. And you have the fact that articulating those feelings by speaking them, makes those more real for you.


The Third Aspect: Self-Respect 

If you compliment somebody on having said something particularly insightful, that means that you have in you the quality of insightfulness. You cannot compliment somebody for something that you have no relationship with. If a person is stupid then they cannot compliment anybody on something which is smart because there’s no common denominator. Acknowledging something in somebody else which is to affirm that you appreciate somebody’s wisdom, kindness, creativeness, strength, it means that in some way those qualities are in you, they belong to you, and to be aware of them and to describe them and to express them is to affirm for yourself that you have something of that in you. 

When we daven and we begin to praise Hashem for these many qualities, we are trying to a) deepen our awareness, because the more we do so the more we are going to become aware. When we speak about Hashem’s creativity or about Hashem’s kindness or strength, etc the more we talk about it the more we are going be aware of it, the more we are aware of it the deeper will be our feelings of awe, appreciation, love and those things will become more real to us because we can hear ourselves speak of them. The fact that we speak them deepens our sense of reality about them. And b) it also tells us, in a certain sense, about ourselves which throws off a certain self-respect for ourselves. When we speak about the fact that we appreciate G-d’s wisdom or His kindness, just saying that resonates something with ourselves that we respect kindness. And then it makes a demand on us that when we are given opportunities that we be generous and kind. We must do things that promote our being able to act wisely. 

The bottom line purpose of prayer, (notwithstanding the kabbalistic aspects) is to have a closer relationship with Hakadosh Baruch Hu, that it be a constant in our lives. The more we notice, the greater will be the constancy of our relationship because we’ll notice Hashem everywhere. We’ll notice Him in the colors, in the fragrances, in the intricacies of tiny little things in our lives, and that’s the extent to which we will be connected, grateful and enthusiastic. 


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